Saturday, August 14, 2004
"Will Work For Life Advice"
....That's what my sandwich board will read.
Conditions where I work have put me & a few other people in the position of deciding whether or not we want to continue working there. I'm not going into details just yet; and that's not the purpose of this post anyway.
I have several regulars that; over the course of time; I don't look at as regulars anymore. I consider them friends. I divulge a little more of myself than I would to other people. I feel comfortable telling them more details about my day-to-day life & I feel more comfortable about asking them about theirs. I'm genuinely happy when I see them come in. And not in a "here's another tip" kinda way. When I started thinking that I MAY leave this job; my first thought was that I did not want to leave without being able to let my guests that I've come to see as friends know where I would be. I tentatively told a hand few tonight that I may be leaving & asked if I could get in touch with them if that happens. (Believe it or not; this girl does feel a little insecure sometimes! What if one of them said, "Well, have a nice life! It was nice knowin' ya!"?) I was very touched that they showed that they think of me as a friend as well. Not just some entertaining bartender that gets them drinks & food really quick. I've forged some of my best friendships over a bar. It doesn't happen alot,but sometimes after I've talked to someone at my bar several times, I think, "I could really hang out with this person." And it's always because I come to respect them. I can't hang with anyone I don't respect. I come to respect their ability to learn from their mistakes, their hindsight, their outlook, their advice, their sense-of-self, their sense of me. Morals & ethics are important to me, too. But, I believe that the other stuff makes the person. Are you not going to have someone as your friend just because they may sleep around alot & you don't? Or they may think it's OK to steal paper from work & you don't? You get my point.
And Rhino, what did you pay for Kbear's? I may be looking for extra money! Thinkin' I should start an auction myself!
Peace
Conditions where I work have put me & a few other people in the position of deciding whether or not we want to continue working there. I'm not going into details just yet; and that's not the purpose of this post anyway.
I have several regulars that; over the course of time; I don't look at as regulars anymore. I consider them friends. I divulge a little more of myself than I would to other people. I feel comfortable telling them more details about my day-to-day life & I feel more comfortable about asking them about theirs. I'm genuinely happy when I see them come in. And not in a "here's another tip" kinda way. When I started thinking that I MAY leave this job; my first thought was that I did not want to leave without being able to let my guests that I've come to see as friends know where I would be. I tentatively told a hand few tonight that I may be leaving & asked if I could get in touch with them if that happens. (Believe it or not; this girl does feel a little insecure sometimes! What if one of them said, "Well, have a nice life! It was nice knowin' ya!"?) I was very touched that they showed that they think of me as a friend as well. Not just some entertaining bartender that gets them drinks & food really quick. I've forged some of my best friendships over a bar. It doesn't happen alot,but sometimes after I've talked to someone at my bar several times, I think, "I could really hang out with this person." And it's always because I come to respect them. I can't hang with anyone I don't respect. I come to respect their ability to learn from their mistakes, their hindsight, their outlook, their advice, their sense-of-self, their sense of me. Morals & ethics are important to me, too. But, I believe that the other stuff makes the person. Are you not going to have someone as your friend just because they may sleep around alot & you don't? Or they may think it's OK to steal paper from work & you don't? You get my point.
And Rhino, what did you pay for Kbear's? I may be looking for extra money! Thinkin' I should start an auction myself!
Peace
